“Wives are young men’s mistresses, companions for middle age, and old men’s nurses.”– Francis Bacon
(Hubby is clearly still in training as the only thing he needs to understand is to say yes dear but these words still seem to be omitted from his list of vocab).
I’m sure some of these points of learning will ring true with the millions of wives out there, but for all those new to marriage, I thought I would share the small amount of wisdom I have picked up in this short time. I hope, with time, there will be more to come and/or deleted if they turn out inaccurate!
So, what is Marriage? . . .
- It’s telling him you love him every single day
- It’s always kissing each other goodbye and hello
- It’s knowing when to stop Nagging
- It’s hating your husband but loving him all at once.
- It’s having an argument and him sleeping in the spare room, but you still make him his lunch and leave a love note on the kitchen chalkboard
- It’s calling each other names but being secretly turned on by how he is when he’s angry
- Its being all forgiving although you know you’re right – it’s just as important to keep the peace as prove you’re right – women naturally have to swallow their pride but your man will realise it in the end, he just won’t tell you when he does.
- It’s suggesting an idea and having it rejected immediately, but having the patience to wait for him to think about it and realise that it’s not so bad – now this one is interesting, as depending on the man he could: a) bring it up two months later and acknowledge your suggestion, as it wasn’t so bad (I’m lucky as this is how my hubby works) or b) pass it off as his own, in which case just congratulate him on his wonderful idea!
- It’s letting him sulk while you take out your anger scrubbing the oven, smashing plates or hitting the gym.
- It’s knowing when to throw down the dish cloth, grab your coat, grab your man and take him on an overdue stroll and glass of vino or hot chocolate
- It’s still celebrating valentines and the day you first met
- It’s being his secretary – knowing your diary and his
- It’s knowing where he left that tiny piece of blue wire that would one day come in handy and doing well to refrain from throwing it in the bin
- In fact it’s know where everything is, even when it’s right in front of his face!
- It’s accepting his team is his life
- It’s admitting when you’re wrong.
- It’s not turning into your mother
- It’s not acting like his mother
- It’s accepting this statement is true: you must be a maid in the living room, a cook in the kitchen and a whore in the bedroom (Jerry Hall)
- It’s ensuring life doesn’t get mundane and stale.
- It’s not brushing things under the carpet
- It’s having dinner at the table and catching up on each others day
- It’s not taking your work home with you
- It’s accepting you are a women and therefore superhuman and have special powers such as being a mind reader, able to do 10 things at once, able to juggle full-time job still make home-made food and keep house.
- It’s being naturally capable and mindful of how to do every household chore and every housewife secret even though your mum never taught you.
- It’s accepting that you never will be perfect, in your own eyes (as we always see room for improvement), but realising that to those who love you, they already think you are – so don’t be so hard on yourself!
“You never know anyone until you marry them.”
– ELEANOR ROOSEVELT